I’m sorry for taking such a long time to come out with this post for Rave Bright, but it is for reasons that I actually plan to explain within the bulk of this post. Basically, drama. Something that I have spent my entire life turning away from.
I have become very adept at staying away from, and dealing with drama in my life. Which is why it was so surprising when drama broke out among the Rave Scene, all among the rave scene. I’m not talking about one incident; I’m talking about at least a dozen of them. My friend Tom was talking to be about how he has this theory that fights don’t happen among rave goers very often because if truly provoked they would kill each other. And while I can almost assure you that this is an overstatement, I can tell you that fights in the scene can and do get bloody.
Between scuffles at after-parties, strong words at the club, fights among close friends, and misunderstandings between acquaintances, tempers are running high these last few weeks. I don’t know whether it’s the weather, the moon, the fast approach of the year 2012 (which at least some of us are wary of) or simply the stress of listening to Christmas carols in gas stations and drug marts, but this anger and hostility to driving a wedge into the center of our community.
A wedge that I know we can heal from. But I’d like to propose that we start trying to mend this wound right away, the sooner the better. Whenever someone gets angry at my mother for some reason or another, she just pretends like nothing happened and treats them the same, like co-workers and friends. Pretty soon, or at least eventually she smiles at them in the coffee room and they smile back because they have completely forgotten that they were upset in the first place.
Am I asking that guy who got his ear bitten off at Winter Warm Up in Cleveland to try and be besties with the perpetrator? Absolutely not. Probably though, whoever your fighting with (And I have no doubts that almost every single one of you has been feeling the pinch of aggression lately) has NOT taken a chunk out of one of your body parts. You might want to thank them for that.
A great way to dissolve an argument is with humor. So it might help to literally just say “God I’m so angry at you! … But I am grateful you haven’t chosen this moment to bite off my finger”. It would help if they also read this article, because common knowledge is also a good way to break down anger. Try quoting a tv show you both like, something relevant, like what character A says to character B when they are fighting. It helps to remind both of you why you are friends and it rarely fails to invoke a sense of humor if the movie your quoting was a comedy in the first place :p
So, again, I am sorry that it took so long to put up this post, I have been dealing with my own personal drama lately. Drama that is not as simple as a spat with a friend, so if you have been reading this post and thinking “God, this chick has good ideas but its not always that simple!” Let me tell you that I understand completely, some drama cannot be dealt with all that easily. Some of it even requires the authorities or ending a friendship that had lasted you 12 years. And these I do not take lightly, but with all of that crazy type drama already in our lives, who has time for the high school variety? Please, lets remember that we are a fun loving community and lets get out there and dance our asses off. Literally, that way if anybody tries to tell us we have a fat ass, we can laugh because wouldn’t you know? Its on the ground.
